I am completely and unequivocally devastated. My cherished memories over 23years in an instant made worthless, and wasted. My dreams destroyed, my trust and faith gone.
In spite of mine, I returned to online dating at 70 last month with a new mission and a new attitude. This is my second go-round in the world of virtual match-making. I no longer need to prove myself lovable. My biological clock is still ticking, but not in the same way it did in my 20s.
How to deal with an aging narcissistic parent?
I am believing in myself now, my own generosity and most importantly to look to my own past and clean up my codependency. I can feel myself much more which is the first step. I am actively DISENGAGING from him, unfortunately there is the matter of a little doggie whom all the children love whom he is making a emotional pawn and getting some supply from that attention.
What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
You cannot change a person with narcissistic personality disorder or make them happy by loving them. Narcissists can’t feel fulfilled in relationships, or in any area of their lives, because nothing is ever special enough for them. If you believe you are dating a narcissist, the best thing you can do is leave. If there Quiver are no ties such as children, block and go no contact. If there are shared responsibilities, seek legal advice or have a trusted family member or friend assist with communication. It is likely a narcissist will make attempts to contact you and harass you during the break-up, so it’s important to stick to no contact.
What to Expect from Narcissistic People When They Get Old
We live about 800 kms apart at the moment and she very seldom contacts me first unless she is feeling down. I travel as often as I can to see her and she does not seem to acknowledge or appreciate these visits unless we are ” wining and dining”. Even then I am criticized for not choosing the right restaurant or weekend destination of which there has been many. I have tried everything I know to please her and always seem to be rewarded with terrible criticism.
I hope that you stayed well away as there is no happy ending with narcissist – just devastation & pain. I was moved to tears reading your comments. Especially the part about seeing your Ex with someone else, “getting into a car” because that happened to me with my Narc/Ex.
Self-absorbed as a result of their upbringing. It’s likely that the narcissists attempting to control you experienced control tactics themselves from their parents. Narcissistic parents dominate their kids’ lives, including their emotions. Not only does this model narcissistic behavior for their child, but it creates a yearning for control once they’re finally given a taste as they approach adulthood. Long story short, if they can’t control you or they lose control, they will feel threatened.
Christina Elks September 4th, 2019 Oh wow! He asks or nearly beggs me to movi in with him and it was i love this i mis you that! Thinking back to hearing that disgusts me cause he got me here, and has droooed me like a hitcake.
I don’t want to end my marriage, but I feel like i have to because she is such a threat to my livelihood. By her own admission she realizes life is not going as she had hoped –and she is an intelligent and very attractive woman. But the fault always is with someone else. People messing with her is one of her more frequent used reasons for her life and career not progressing as it should. Donna July 7th, 2015 Wow .Last year I found out I am an empath, now I’m finding out I am with a person who has high tendencies as a narcissist. I look back with sadness at my outbursts, my tantrums, my anger.
He is free to see other women and lives with his mother, so all his domestic needs are met. He likely places blame on you when meeting with other women close to his home and makes it your fault that he is lonely. I am so sorry to hear of your situation, I’m a christian as well, but have been through a lot in life, bad choices, good choices, married to a narcissist and raising a child together. I understand how they think, manipulate, lie and blame all too well.