Just to add another perspective, even babies with different names in their immediate families, could end up with having the same name as the family grows and changes. My husband’s sister and sister-in-law (his brother’s wife) have the same first name. It requires a bit of clarification when speaking of them, but it’s not a big deal. Whenever I hear stories about “baby name wars” I think of the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when the dad is introducing all the cousins; “And this is my sister Nikki and her kids Nick, Nicolas, Niko, and Nikki. And my brother Nick and his kids Nick Jr., Nikki…” They all seemed t get along fine.
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“As time goes on, you may find a pet name for your honey such as ‘baby,’ ‘sweetheart,’ ‘dude,’ ‘handsome,’ or another term of endearment,” Walfish says. This also works if you want to address your partner by name in bed without wanting to curl into the fetal position. Just use the pet name or nickname so there’s zero association with the name that makes you cringe.
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At that point, the ball is in her court. Yeah, she might get super bent out of shape or upset. But she’ll need to get over it, frankly.
The problem is my husband’s family. They are all local, and they’re very judgmental. Even though we have always been financially stable, they will tell us we can’t afford it. They’ll tell me https://loveconnectionreviews.com/ I didn’t try hard enough to change my stomach through diet and exercise, even though I’m quite active. I haven’t seen them since Christmas, but I know I’ll see one of them later this month.
That’s basically how I’m treating it right now. I just wanted to get a feel for what other people think. Yeah it shouldn’t be a huge deal. I was just curious about what other people thought. Come up with a nickname or something.
“You might want to remind yourself about what you like about this person as an individual rather than focus on their name,” Edelman suggests. Try to focus on the qualities about them that really draw you in. I’ve been seeing this girl that has the same name as my sister. Many of my buddies think it’s weird and I try not to mind it. I think if you really like somebody their name should not get in the way of you being happy.
That phenomenon extends to appearance. “You’re familiar with your own appearance, so seeing other people who share those similar sorts of traits might lead to more liking for that reason,” he says. The similarities in character are mostly caused by their parents’ characters.
It would be fine if he was ok with me calling him by a different nickname. Once I dated a guy with the same name as my childhood budgie. Even that was slightly confusing when talking about him with my parents. If you’re still experiencing a mental block, try figuring out a nickname for your partner that’s distinctive and different from what your parent goes by.
I have a friend named Nathan who has a sister named Megan. I generally don’t even call people by their names that often but I might bring that up with her as we spend more time together. However, my brother has a relatively uncommon name for an American. I’d avoid guys with his same name.
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She’s still fuming about it and will whine to anyone who listens that we ruined “her” name. My SIL and I are due pretty much at the exact same time. We know the sex of ours and knew what the name would be even before the kid was conceived. She doesn’t know the sex of hers and claims not to have a name picked at all. I had a minor freak out about what if we pick the same name because the name we picked is her (and my husband’s) grandfather’s name.
My cousin and I are two months apart and have the same first name and same initials. We loved it, it was a special bond that made it more fun to hang out together (when a parent yelled for a good thing, we both went; if it meant trouble, we pretended that it was for the “other Allison”). I truly think that the only person who cares is the parent, the kids will be fine and have no issues… Unless you create an issue for them.
You get used to it even if it’s weird in the beginning. It’s kinda sad if people dismiss someone over their name, it’s not like they’re responsible for it, plus you could be missing out on someone who’s otherwise perfect for you. A girl at work not only has a boyfriend who’s name is the same as her brothers, but they all live in the same house, she just has nicknames for both of them and it doesn’t seem to bother her. It’s only an issue if you make a big deal out of it, people aren’t going to look at you strange, it’s not nearly as important as who the person is. It reminds me of a time i was listening to the radio and the DJ asked this same question. A girl called in and she said she dumped her boyfriend because he wanted her to say his name when they were having sex and his name was the same as her father’s!
Every time he mentioned “Jess” in a story, I made him clarify whether he meant girlfriend or sister, cuz I’m cruel like that. Dr. Edelman says there’s nothing wrong with it. After all, you’re not actually dating your sibling, and they may not even share any personality or physical traits with them. They just happen to have the same name. Even if you don’t hear back, I hope you experience some relief in writing both letters and that you’re able to prioritize and pursue platonic friendships again soon.